Note: this is
not a scientific material. If you need help, seek professional
assistance. Translated from Spanish.
Document written long ago. Maybe there will be some
change.
THE BACKGROUND
An addiction is
anything you can not fail to do that hurts you. I heard this on Dr.
Nancy Alvarez’s show. I think the concept should include
alcoholism, for simplicity. Otherwise, there is a long list of
definitions for alcoholism. A trap of addictions is that if you
manage to leave one, you start another one. Some even have their
positive side. The workaholic may achieve their fortune. But almost
certainly they will die early from heart attack, cirrhosis or some other
illness. An addiction is a manifestation of an underlying problem, an
unresolved internal struggle. I almost dare say the addict to
one thing, is to other ones too. Thus, as described above, the super
worker also is an alcoholic, drug consumer, seeks sex without control
or has a reckless behavior. What characterizes an addiction is that
it is self-destructive.
MY
APPROACH
It
might exist a causing trauma to an addiction. Although they are
usually a manifestation of the subconscious struggle between what
your parents (or whoever raised you) decided should be your life, and
what you're doing with it or want to do. In part this happens because
they longed for a certain type of child. But parents drag their
internal battles from the clash with their own parents too. And this
non resolved conflict, parents channel it on you in the form of
possessiveness, control, contradiction, penalty, claim, hardness,
cruelty, and sometimes indifference. It is an endless chain. Perhaps
you will do it with your children, or you are doing it already. Up to
this point I have not considered the possibility of a mental illness like
schizophrenia or some other unmanifested. The ways of conflict are
many. It may be that your parents live in a power struggle and you
became a disaster as an outcome. Or they have migrated and left you
behind, or went into a separation.
SOME TRICKS
I
learned this from a television show so long ago that I forgot about
it. To face an addiction you have to think about the immediate
negative effects. For example, if you smoke, as was my case, you have
to remind you rself again and again that it leaves your clothes stinky,
ruin your breath, makes you nervous, causes headaches, gets you tired
when walking, the smell bothers most women, it's something that makes
you look like someone problematic, etc. Do not torment yourself with
guilt. This will lead the internal struggle to maintain and increase
the problem. If you think about the long-term effects of an
addiction, such as cancer, it can even raise the addiction. It sounds
absurd, but that is the result. An addiction is a self-destructive
behavior rooted in the subconscious. And if you think of the worst
effects, it will increase. Another trick I guess I discovered myself,
is not to finish the issue at once. This means, not to think you are
never going to re-do or are going to stop it permanently. The idea is
not to put much pressure on the decision, to prevent the desire for what your leaving from growing. In my case it worked. I do not
know if it is useful to others. I sometimes smoke a cigarette
(tobacco), only to end up with nausea, headache, dizziness and
nervousness. You must resolve the mess inside from the very bottom.
Otherwise, you will leave a vice to start another one.
You
will solve your problem within yourself and not fighting against your
parents or complaining about them.
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